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Then We Were Four - Building Our Family Through Adoption Skip to content Then We Were Four Building Our Family Through Adoption View ThenWeWereFour’s profile on FacebookView ThenWeWereFour’s profile on TwitterView ThenWeWereFour’s profile on Tumblr Home My Blog Adoption Stage 1 Stage 2 Matching Post Placement Post Adoption Family Life Guest Posts Miscellaneous ReviewsWell-nighUs Contact Us Blogs To Read The ‘N’ Word 25th June 2018 Then We Were Four There are lots of words which have negative connotations for people. This particular word seems to generate enormous offence from my son if it is Continue reading The Hunger Monster 3rd May 2018 Then We Were Four I have a son who has a monster inside of him. It’s a monster that tends to show itself whenever he is hungry. The monster Continue reading The Mother’s Day Resolution 22nd March 2018 Then We Were Four Continued from: The Mother’s Day Exclusion The teacher was standing on the school gate, theoretically the person given the duty usually performed by one Continue reading Transitions 10th October 2018 Then We Were Four Adoption, Family Life, Post Adoption 2 comments This has been the longest time yonder from this blog I have had since I started writing it 4 (!) years ago. The reason for the sparsity has multiple facets, but they can be summed up in one word: Transitions. Since I wrote my last post our family has undergone a number of transitions. Some went increasingly smoothly than others. Unfortunately the others have caused me some issues. I’ll start with the one that went smoothly, Eldest went from reception to Year 1 at school. He didn’t walkout too many signs of anxiety, there may have been a bit of Continue reading The ‘N’ Word 25th June 2018 Then We Were Four Adoption, Slider Leave a scuttlebutt There are lots of words which have negative connotations for people. This particular word seems to generate enormous offence from my son if it is overly directed at him. That word is ‘Naughty’. For my son that is the worst thing in the world to be called. He hates it. To have it unromantic to him sends him into a horrible negative screw of shame. It is particularly evident when the word is used to wield to something he has washed-up when he’s trying to be helpful. He has seen grown-ups doing it, so he’ll do it too, he’s helping. Continue reading The Hunger Monster 3rd May 2018 Then We Were Four Adoption, Family Life, Slider Leave a scuttlebutt I have a son who has a monster inside of him. It’s a monster that tends to show itself whenever he is hungry. The monster makes him angry, it makes him argumentative, combative and sometimes plane violent. Continue reading The Mother’s Day Resolution 22nd March 2018 Then We Were Four Adoption, Family Life, Slider Leave a scuttlebutt Continued from: The Mother’s Day Exclusion The teacher was standing on the school gate, theoretically the person given the duty usually performed by one of the woolgathering leadership team. I was nervous, so I asked one of the mums who we are friends with to come with me so that I wasn’t a lone voice. The conversation started like this: “I’ve been asked to tell you that the school will respond to your letter, but considering neither the throne nor deputy throne are in until without half term it won’t be until then. They didn’t want you to think they Continue reading The Mother’s Day Exclusion 18th March 2018 Then We Were Four Adoption, Family Life, Slider 3 comments Mother’s Day this year has been an interesting time. It’s the first year that it has really been something we’ve had to unclose in our household considering it is the first year that one of my sons has been in an institution (his school) that decided to create an event virtually it. Previously they have been at a nursery who tended to do anything (cards etc) on a day when they didn’t attend, lamister any mismatch with our family. So, an invitation arrived from the school inviting us… oh wait… not us… Addressed to “Mums”…. to their Mother’s Day lunch Continue reading You Keep Me Safe 14th March 2018 Then We Were Four Adoption, Family Life, Slider One scuttlebutt As adoptive parents sometimes when we see a glimmer of progress it is often combined with a feeling of sadness. It is an odd feeling to be sad when you should be happy. The reason for this is often the signs of progress are things which other children never have to face, things which never plane navigate their minds as stuff an issue, yet can be veritably massive steps forward for our children. This could be something as simple as reacting in a shy way to a stranger where they would normally go up and requite them a huge hug. Continue reading Supporting Contact 14th February 2018 Then We Were Four Adoption, Slider 4 comments I have written surpassing well-nigh my expectations and thoughts on what in the adoption world is currently tabbed “contact”. My views haven’t reverted a unconfined deal, but it is something that I am forced to reflect on twice a year when I write a letter to my children’s biological parents. Continue reading New Year, New… Expectations? 4th January 2018 Then We Were Four Adoption, Family Life Leave a scuttlebutt New years’ celebrations have unchangingly been a bit anticlimactic in my mind. I’ve never prestigious the incrementing of that last digit of the stage by one. The transition of 1999 to 2000 was prestigious by me stuff in bed with flu. There are often too many expectations that come with moving from the end of one year to the start of the next. I’ve never really understood why, in my mind it’s just the start of flipside day. All the problems that existed on the 31st December are still there on the 1st January, as is everything else. I’ve never Continue readingFlipsideChristmas 4th December 2017 Then We Were Four Adoption, Family Life, Slider 2 comments It is that time of the year, the time when some people get all jovial, uneaten generous and kind, and others get panicky, grumpy and fairly fed up. For others still it is a dichotomous time with some elements that are loved and some that are hated. Continue reading Controlling the Uncontrollable 29th November 2017 Then We Were Four Adoption, Family Life, Slider Leave a scuttlebutt It’s impossible, you can’t tenancy it, stop worrying well-nigh it. I say it to myself many times most days. Yet my subconscious smart-ass refuses to listen. It’s there gnawing yonder at my conscious smart-ass causing me uneasiness and stress. Unnecessary, yet ever-present. Continue reading Posts navigation 1 2 3 … 14 Next Posts» SocialView ThenWeWereFour’s profile on FacebookView ThenWeWEreFour’s profile on TwitterView ThenWeWereFour’s profile on Tumblr Search for: Search From The Start Read our adoption journey from the very whence here: Starting To Start Our Family Subscribe to Blog via Email Enter your email write to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email. 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